Posted 11:23 PM by Robert
Can someone explain to me how we as people can justify our understanding of love? Look at how many romantic relationships any one person will go through in their life. Suppose a guy meets a girl. They decide to get married and spend the rest of their lives together. But there are billions of other people that they've never even met. How do they know they've found that special someone? Who's to say that there isn't someone else who would be a "better fit?" How can we possibly determine that he or she is "the one?" Maybe we accept that we'll never really know, so we just choose someone who is convenient, who's in the right place at right time. If that's true, it completely undermines the unique and sacred concept of love.

You know that song by Crosby, Stills, Nash, and Young? "If you can't be with the one you love, love the one you're with." I like the song, but I hate that concept. The thing that makes him or her the one you love is the fact that you love him or her. And if you're not with the one you love, it's generally not a good feeling. You don't just decide to love someone else instead.

Is there somebody meant for everyone? And if so, do we always meet that person? Is the person we end up the one we're meant to be with? If we're meant to be with somebody, are they also meant to be with us? HOW DO WE EVEN KNOW??? What even makes us attracted to someone else? How does that feeling of love manifest itself in us?

Assuming we're meant to be with somebody, how can we know that we've found him or her? When an opportunity to meet that person presents itself, what tells us that this is one of those chances? And what if we blow it? Do we get second chances? Third chances? Fourth chances?

Never mind that the word "love" is thrown around quite carelessly in our world. We don't expect to "fall in love," but it happens. Love comes to us, and when it does, we still have no idea what to do.